This is the true story of two married people, picked to build a house, work together and have their lives written on a blog, to find out what happens when people stop being polite and start being real…
Or this is just where we answer your burning questions in a less dramatic way then reality according to MTV. Either way prepare to have your world rocked.
Katie (my favorite reader…if I played favorites – I love you all equally like any good mother) had this incredible question up her sleeve:
All your recent great work has led me to a question. Because you’ve built from the ground up, what did your timing, choice, and sourcing process look like? Did you have to methodically go room by room, or focus on material (all tile, all countertops, etc.) and then go from there? As someone who agonizes for months over drawer pulls, how did you handle all of that?
So. Much. Goodness. Also this post was completely cowritten by us, so you get both the husband and the wife’s view of the process.
As far as approach, whether or not we went room by room or focused on materials… the answer is both.
Basically we went room by room ahead of time and planned out the overall feel before we started meeting with the subcontractors (cabinets, counters, etc). Some of our vision was easier to pull off than others. The island marble (white, gray veining with a waterfall) was our plan from the moment we put pen to paper with our architect. Unfortunately, it wasn’t easily executed.
However since you’re dealing with subcontractors for each specific thing (i.e. flooring, plumbing, cabinets, etc.), all meetings and final decisions are made based on a specific materials. We found the process to go smoother when we considered the whole room then broke it down by materials. It made the details in the meetings less daunting and the communication clearer between us and the subcontractors…not that they always listened to us 100%.
This is why the master bath countertop being gray was so disappointing because all the other design decisions had been made (flooring and cabinet color) and executed before the countertop arrived more on the gray side. It changed the feel and our vision of that space. That’s kinda the downside of having such a strong opinion about how a space should come together. Still worth it though.
Our sourcing was a combination of budget considerations along with achieving the look we wanted. This is where building a complete custom house is awesome because you are limitless with option. No one tells you no (think kid in a candy store scenario). Light fixtures were big for us. We met with a consultant from a lighting supply store early on, and we weren’t super happy with the selection (or pricing) and ended up sourcing a lot of the fixtures ourselves (like the killer vintage pendants above the island). We also got some crazy looks for busting out an ikea fixture. We’re not brand whores and don’t think that just because something is cheap it won’t look good, so it didn’t bother us.
How we planned: it was a constant conversation on text, facebook and pinterest. So many times Nick would be in the other room (or at work) and see something he really liked (a light fixture for example) and message Amber a link on facebook. We used secret boards on pinterest to have conversations with each other and post tons of options for a specific thing (I think at one point there were 30 options in a row posted for our master vanity light).
Lastly, some decisions you make or change mid-stream as the room evolves. When they framed out our bathroom, the idea of a generic tub just didn’t set well with us. The more we went up there the more we realized that we wanted to do something different. They had already framed out for a jet tub when we had them yank out the framing and cut into the foundation to plumb for the clawfoot tub.
Was it overwhelming? We don’t think so. Well sometimes. Did we get all the choices right? Don’t think so either. There’s not a ton we would change, but there’s definitely things like the fireplace and the exterior color scheme that we would do differently in retrospect.
We were able to make decisions very quickly. Even though Amber is usually the one antagonizing every choice, there’s nothing like living with your parents to help speed up the process. Kidding (kinda).
The key is to think of the space as a whole, then break it down by the materials. Allow yourself to adjust as you see things coming together. Research the heck out of every decision to make sure you are getting exactly what you want for as cheap as you can.
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